Re: There's a “tone” to my voice that everyone hates

[Anonymous]

@MonkeyBarb

“Impatience” is the word, you know, but it seems to be the other way around in their case. They are very patient. Waay too patient, if you ask me. But as soon as they express themselves, which is not very often, the people around them show every caricatural sign of impatience, which never ceases to amaze me.

“Assertiveness”/”aggressiveness”: spot on! It’s like they constantly absorb the stress, but one day, bam, something unexpectedly snaps and it’s Armageddon revisited, haha. And just don’t stand in their way when they’re like this. That does no good, either, in my opinion.

@Larynxa and kc5jck

Body language. Well, it totally sounds like it over the net, right. I think so, too. But it must be very subtle, you know (hence the curious “aura”-idea, I suppose). I used to be a bouncer when I was younger (and a roadie, that’s how I first met the guy in question), and thus I have become quite astute at reading negative body language accurately. How comes that I am “immune” to the effect he has on others? I can’t spot anything wrong. Yes, sure, he can be considered slightly eccentric or introverted at times, I don’t know. Anyways, I have been told that I had the same attitude at first and looked at him “as if he came from Mars”; well, I can’t remember that. I take his word for it. It must happen on a subconscious level. But, it’s beyond the point anyway. He most definitely has ADD: I’ve read the threads on hyperfocus, etc. – that’s it, totally. My main problem, now, is how to tell him. “Hey, you probably have ADD, go to the doctor!” How to say it tactfully, I don’t know. Better give it a serious thought before I say anything. No hurry, anyway, since he lives in Florida and I am in Switzerland.

I very much hope that this thread will go on, as it evidently touches a main issue in ADD, which remains to be solved and it appears to be very helpful and informative. I will refer my mate to it. Many thanks to all of you for responding!

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