Re: What you may be doing that keeps you from making friends

[Saffron]

Such a crucial topic, with excellent points. I’ll add one, although it’s a variation on those you’ve already covered:

– The “Tangential” Storyteller –

Do people look fearful of the time when you begin to relate an anecdote? Work on keeping to what’s relevant in your story, and save all of the “off-shoot thoughts” that come up for another time. Focus on a linear telling rather than on eventually coming full-circle.

I would also emphasize what WW says about not overdoing it when it’s your turn to talk. Many of us likely have friends who love us but who sometimes hesitate to ask us about ourselves — because they don’t know how long our response will go on. These same loved ones may not be able to call you as often as they’d like, because they know they need to set extra time aside to do so. If you can get these friends and family members used to “a more concise you,” you’ll often begin to hear from them much more.

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