Re: Women w/ ADHD Inattentive Type – anyone out there?

[g.laiya]

i grew up with a mother who was constantly cleaning even though we had a live-in housekeeper. i always felt like mom was vacuuming in the morning just to annoy me . she knew i hated the sound of the vacuum cleaner – as a child i complained it hurt my ears, but as an adult i realize the sound just really grates on my nerves- and i like to sleep late in the morning. they are early birds, i am a nightowl. my parents were not only on time to all appointments/events, they were often early! ….which did not go well with my almost always late, last minute, procrastinating, losing track of time issues.i remember a lot of yelling growing up……a lot of tension….but fear of mom kept me on my toes for school. knew anything below a “b” was unacceptable, as was not enough “a”s. so even if it meant hiding in my closet finishing my work at 2,3,4 in the morning…the price i paid for procrastination….

not that it was all bad – they also were supportive for most interests i wanted to explore.i did a lot when i was young – dance classes, gymnastics, horseback riding, ice skating, snow and water skiing, scuba diving, tennis, acting classes, modeling classes….she also pushed me to be involved socially, which i largely resented when i was growing up (and even now), but i guess it kept me from being a total loner, and so maintained some semblance of normality.

my dad was in drycleaning biz so back then everything was well pressed – even sweats!

i don’t think i’ve owned an iron since college…it didn’t get much use then either. now most of my stuff i launder or hand wash. if you take stuff out of the dryer and hang the important-to-look-neat stuff right away they are usually fine – as long as you don’t overload the dryer. the other stuff like jeans and tshirts i’ll just hang up before i need them so i can shpritz them with a water bottle – ususally makes them presentable…..though if i wait too long to do it i leave still “damp”. we used to use a hand held steamer til it stopped working. for work the last few years i almost always wear scrubs, even though it’s not required in my current positions – it’s just so much easier to look presentable! and they’re usually pretty comfortable and very functional.

i’ve had a much better time with my keys since i put up a key hook by the front door. and i try to repeat a mantra as i’m getting ready to go out of the important things to bring with me such as “keys, phone,purse,water”- whatever is important that time. sometimes i’ll post reminders on the bathroom mirror and front door “remember sunscreen and lunches”. when i’m really worried about remembering to bring things i’ll put whatever i can in the car or in front of the front door the night before, and post sticky notes for the rest.

i also try to have good protein every meal, though i don’t eat at regular times.if i’m working early though i almost always get in a solid breakfast- otherwise i’ll wind up miserable and cranky from hunger cause i may not get another chance to eat until 2 or 3:00 – sometimes later. sometimes i’ll bring protein bars that i can quickly sneak in. mostly i get by with my beverages though until i pick up the kids after work. i do try to keep plenty of healthy snacks around for all of us. it’s diificult in our home – i’m a lacto-ova vegetarian, my dd doesn’t like most dairy but does love fresh fruit and vegetables(which is great!) and is generally more open to trying new things, but ds is super super picky, does not like a wide variety of foods, often not willing to try new things, very sensitive to different textures and smells as well as taste and visual factors.

i enjoyed other dr sears books – will have to look for the add one.

i’m still trying to figure out what calender system will work best – i’m trying out 1 on my phone, but think need 1 at home to integrate with husbands…..hmmm, maybe a google one would be best….

gotta run-the natives are restless….

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