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Hi Tashg,
Great questions. You tell your story very well. And I’m sure it’s a familiar one for a lot of people. Though we tend to think the opposite is true, that the school or teachers WANT to identity a child has having ADHD. But that seems to happen when it’s a boy and he’s acting out, and has other issues beyond the ADHD.
If I were you… and I’m not… I would seek a second opinion. And keep track of the issues and areas where your daughter is struggling. Gather evidence. I find when I get into a doctor’s office, I forget everything, or at least some details, and on the way home I remember, “Oh, I should have…”
And perhaps make sure her teachers understand what ADHD is, and how it shows up in your daughter. Make sure they understand it’s not about intelligence, or bad behaviour, and that so many girls get missed because they aren’t disruptive. (Our Comprehensive Guide explores this in detail. Especially the second video, Embracing the Diagnosis.)
And the main thing I would suggest is keep doing what you are doing. And always be trying new strategies for yourself and for her to find what works. One thing I’ve found is that because it’s so situational, and my own work is so different from day to day, that I need different structures depending on what I’m doing that day. (Or what I’m supposed to be doing. Ha ha!)
Keep us posted!
Rick
P.S.: We’re launching a new video on parenting an ADHD child in the next few weeks. But it’s top secret. Don’t tell anyone. Cause it’s awesome.
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