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KTF—You’re absolutely right. Nobody wants to “parent” an adult. And no adult wants to be “parented.” If your husband is in denial about his ADD and the serious problems it presents, it just makes matters worse. All you have to do is read this forum: lots of ADDers think Attention Deficit is a benign “alternative” neurology, they think others just need to understand and “make adjustments—meet them half way, so to speak.” So you end up half bankrupt, I guess. ADD is slippery. My experience is that’s it’s much more nightmare than gift. Others clearly disagree. And to be fair, I suppose it depends. But ADD aside, if your spouse is acting irresponsibly—for whatever reason—you need to put your foot down. Getting the help of a third party makes the difficult conversations less personal.