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Welcome @nursemes! I would like to encourage you to keep on posting here, and also I would like to tell you that you are definitely giving yourself “the choice” for the rest of your very promising and rewarding life.
You’ve got some great ideas going on inside your mind, so please stick around and keep on learning more about how ADHD has touched your life. You’re still really young, heck, we all are for that matter. I’m 48, but being a lil bit warped by ADHD myself, I get to think with the mind of an eight year old boy!. Only kidding… Not really but… well heck, sometimes it’s true, I act like I’m 8. But when it really counts I can usually muster up some adult behavior.
Mostly. Don’t count on it though.
Some of what you said reminded me of an excellent youtube video of Dr. Ed Hallowell. [awesome!, I remembered to bookmark it a few days ago when I watched it] Here’s a link http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dtU7wGn5PAE **Grins** Ya know I get a real kick out of remembering to do lil things like just bookmarking that video when I had a gut feeling that it might be a good idea. I’m guessing you get these same “gut instincts”. Go ahead and listen to your gut instinct. Like right now, maybe it’s telling you to watch the video. Go ahead. Just right click on it, then left click on “open in a new tab” to watch it. Then come back n read this.
Okay Okay, yep it’s long. So you didn’t want to watch the whole thing right? That’s okay, but just trust me and watch the whole thing later okay?. We already know lot’s of what he’s got to say. But he also covers a bunch of important info you may not already know. More importantly he talks about how what we really need is human connection. (right at about 17 min. in the video, take a look there… come-onnn go ahead, just do-it!.) We need to participate in human relationships where we get real feedback and give real feedback to other folks.
Most of us never really learned to just plain shut up and listen!. I can easily admit to this, and I’m still really working on it. I have taken generic Ritalin for a short time, it may have been working so well that I started to take my ADHD much less seriously than I should have. A bad brain fart for me to say the least!. And unfortunately I stopped taking in sort of impulsively, (guess it may not have been working all that well that day!) Mostly I listened too much to some of the folks I go to church with. I don’t blame the church, just me for listening to some of the idiots that had dumb ass opinions about stimulant medication. I’m still taking Wellbutrin though. Very low dose. And it’s helping quite a bit all by itself. For now I don’t plan of making any other changes.
It’s likely I’ll change my mind, then again I’ll change it. It’s what we do, huh?.
Dr. Hallowell also wrote a few books. I read the one called “Delivered From Distraction”. Pretty good read if ya ask me. I recommend you go ahead and keep on taking the medication you’ve already got if that’s an option for you. Also, and just as importantly, see if you can get yourself into some kind of group, and/or individual therapy of some kind. Preferably with an ADHD specialist. And of course try to participate some more in this forum. Sometimes this place really gets rock and rolling. It’s been alil bit slow lately, Or maybe it’s just me that’s been slow.
Once in a while I slow down. Like, just for a micro-second, then I rev up the motor agen!.
Are you getting some exercise?. Definitely try to do that some if ya can. It will help you with that lil bit of stress ya may be feeling about gaining weight. I’m sure you look just fine though. 0:-)
Lately I’ve been drumming up some ideas for ways to keep on trudging along on my recovery road from the debacle of ADHDness that has been my life thus far. It’s not quite a nightmare. But it’s also not exactly a stroll along happy go lucky street neither!.
Not even gal!
Nope.
For one thing I plan of making a list of ways I’ve actually improved in my relationship skills. Listening skills. Self restraint and stuff. I actually made a list on my cell phone earlier today. Just sorta brainstorming about a new idea for a thread here. Its’ a work in progess, like a lot of us in this camp.
Works, works in progress.
The whole idea is to try and give something back to this community, a lil bit or a lot more lately. I’ve been helped tons just by reading here. Watching the videos have helped me tons too. I hope you take a look at them. Rick and the rest of the crew have worked really hard to make them. So it’s only common courtesy for us to watch em right?
Right! gal?! Right!
Lot’s and lots. I hope you do a lot of reading too. It helps. Just trust me okay?
Take care
R-
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