Wow. this looks like a very interesting conversation.
And I topic I think a grat deal.
Are my duties as a father and a husband keeping me from reaching my potential?
Possibly. But to be honest, I think without a spouse my life would be now pretty much the same disaster in terms of PERSONAL accomplishments.
And it would also be devoid of the happiness brought by my kids
I guess no one can really tell. Unless we could be shown in a Frank-Capra’s-movie- fashion what our lives would be if we were or weren’t married, we must accept the idea that we COULD be equally happy or even happier otherwise.
But that does not mean we must change our resolutions.
You think a family is a bad idea for you? that’s ok. Don’t feel challanged.
I don’t like the pressure a lot of people is put under: you should marry! you should have kids! As if this is the only important achievment one can dream of. I suppose women feel this a lot more, not because of biology, but just because society in general pushes that role-model.