Hello…I am 49 years old, a recently diagnosed ADHDer, married – twice, just celebrated 15 years with my wife; divoriced my high school sweetheart a while back. My current wife and I decided to go with the DINKS lifestyle by choice: Duel Income No Kids. We have three cats. We have a tremendous amount of respect for each other and separate bank accounts. I’m a great dishwasher and she is a dynamite cook…I’m the test kitchen.
Who ever brings up a requirement to hit a restaurant, it’s their turn to pay. We are adventous and spontaneous. We rode for the first few years on the same motorcycle, until she announced she wanted her own. Too cool, eh?
We love trying beers from around the world or finding a micro brewery. We’ve often had contests to see who can fit more wine bottles into the side motorcycle bags!!
Listen…..I just want to say that you don’t need to have offspring to be married, nor do you need to be married to live with someone. Just being me attracted my wife, so don’t do nothin’ different.
Our challenges have been overcome maybe because when we met and for the past 18 years, I was just being me, not me with ADHD. Focus on the awesomeness of being you…be independent, and when someone sees the value in an independent you, don’t let that one go. You can be independent and be married.
Here’s my little secret: we even sleep in separate bedrooms. No longer to I interrupt her much needed rest with my snoring, and I get an entire bed to myself and don’t worry that my endless tossing and turning will awake her. We can have a sleep over anytime we want!
Find someone who can finish your sentences instead of you finishing theirs.
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