Re: Open Relationships

[Anonymous]

Kylep

Communication is important in any relationship. It also can be difficult in the beginning of any relationship not just for ADDers to do. (you might not want to hurt feelings, give the wrong impression and blah blah blah) That said, you need to communicate (how many times have I typed that word already). You not only need to share what is in your head and heart but you must listen to hers as well to see if you both are on the same page in the same book or at least same chapter. Ahhh but wait… It sounds like you spend a lot of time with your girl and for some that is very kewl. Others need there “me” space. I for one love together time. I for some reason can be playful but serious when needed. But because of my shortcomings it is nice to have a crutch<my biggest problem> there sometimes oh OK most of the time. Someone that I can lean on but not control me. IMHO I have a lot to offer but it comes with a price…and because of all my struggles I can be actually quite understanding of others sometimes to a fault. The way the world is today and all the opportunities and distractions afforded us because of its ease of access and openness weather real or perceived can present challenges to a relationship no matter the stage it is at. ADD or not. I commend you for your strength in keeping quiet and letting her reach out to you it kinda shows she does care and you have some ability of control. NOT LIKE ME …

1st dates ,,, Hey let me fix everything in your home, offer good conversation on life’s challenges and adventures, eat dinner together that I can prepare or I can clean up and take the garbage out or both and let’s sleep together (no! we do not have to have sex I just like holding ya and smelling your womanly scents and feeling your heart beat) and so on and so on…Oh and please help me run and manage my business, as all I ask is you handle all the administrative tasks involved in it LOL is that all.. OH by the way EVERYDAY! no leash I need a chocker. Just point and push me and I will always come back sometimes late sometimes early but I will come back. If the other needs me time, No problem just leave me a to do list in order of need and it’s done. DO not let me wonder make the list 30 pages. So what, I will stay awake for 5 days straight and you will have the home you always wanted and I will have companionship Oh BTW if u want to help great if not no problem and when I am done if you want me to go to the ballet or rock climbing I am there just again point and click and to be honest I am very happy that way.. Oh but when u want sex make sure you have the condemns cauze I cant even find the wallet where mine is…… IKESSSS Hey its the truth….

OK now as a “Doggie” lover myself but a realist. I know how the pups can be magnets and often the product of impulse buying YA THINK but did you guys discuss all that needed to be discussed re the Dog Food, Vet, taking care of while other away, sharing of the wiggle waggle if the hand holding of the relationship ended. or is it just I dare say “understood”…….. because in the beginning of a relationship heck anywhere in a relationship misunderstandings occur and it is often because of mis-communication or no communication. So before either of you get attached it might be a good conversation to have and if you handle it right you may be able to use examples of your feelings in the relationship with her in explaining your feelings towards the dog…. Hey woman no hate mail I am just trying to get these 2 to communicate. Heck this dog sounds so cute I would have the dog listed first in the pre-nup hehehe.

Please kylep keep us up to date as this is better than any reality show on tv and I can figure out all the things I do wrong.

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