LOL!!! This is the first time I’ve heard about other ADDers say they don’t or can’t hold a grudge. I can’t either UNLESS someone treated me really, really bad. Even then, I can still treat the person respectfully, but I will NEVER forget what they did. I think I read once that it’s because we (ADDers) usually can’t quite remember what a fight was about in the first place (those darn “brain glitches”). Those who really know me, figured this out a long time ago. They have more patience with me knowing that I can carry on a “lively”, spirited discussion that may sound like a fight, but then when the subject changes I “let it go” and move on.
I can also separate behaviors like: (Now don’t get mad at me whatever your political party, I’m just giving an example) I can separate Pres. Clinton’s stupid sexual indiscretions (which I thought was REALLY stupid) with his ability to run the country (which I thought was pretty good). I can separate people’s intentions from their actual behavior. If I know they “MEANT” to do nice, I have much more patience.
I, too, think of it like a “dog moment”. Cesar Milan (Dog Whisperer) is always talking about dogs just prefer to move forward… I like that way of thinking. We should be more like dogs, eh? 