oh my goodness 
thank you for replying. Just the fact that I know SOMEONE “heard” me makes me feel alot better. I was very upset that day and I really needed to know I wasnt in this alone.
As for my bf, things are not always bad and you are absolutely right, fights happen lol. I fear it might just be me. I have “issues” and low self esteem. I’m still trying to figure out what part of these arguement is me and what is ADD. Since that post, he asked me to be pattient with him. He said it has been like trying learn to speak a new launguage for him. “I’m tryng to figure it out,” he says. What’s strange is that he feels the need to explain ADD to his mother every chance he gets, but not in front of me. I think he does that so she won’t be as judgmental with me. I don’t know, he complains but defends me in a way. Also, the “housework arguements” started when I fired our help because the clothes and dishes started to pile up. Then again its difficult to hire help because I’m so wierd! I become anti-social and I don’t even want to greet person down stairs. I restrict myself to just my bd rm alllllllllll day. (good thing i have a bth rm if not I’d hold that in too) I can see how all this irritates him. He often says he “listens” to all 10,000 words I say a day lol, and supposedly that is why he doesnt feel the need to pick up a book about ADD. He claims that he learns from listening better than from reading. And I must admit, I often have to break-down sentences for him to understand so Im not too sure he would even absorb anything from a well written book. (I’m making him sound slow, but he’s not.English is not his first language) Am I pushing him too hard?
Neway, I’m glad I have you all to listen and learn from. Ultimately, Im the Adder so im gonna worry about getting myself better, before trying to “fix” him too. ONe step at a time right? If I see no effort then you are right, it was a bigger problem and I will end it.
@swampthing: Im sorry to hear that, Ill be a good listener when you are ready.
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