Re: I don't know what to do with my life

[munchkin]

I am also 40, married, and just diagnosed with ADD about 4 months ago. My husband was so angry at me for trying to pursue the ADD idea that he kicked me out, and we were separated for the summer. He basically said it was just another one of my wierd obsessions, a complete waste of time, and he was just not interested in going through another B.S. syndrome with me. In the end, he pushed me to get assessed because he said he wasn’t going to be able to deal with me until I saw that I was just being a hypochondriac.

Then – when I gave him an ADD questionaire to fill out on me (from the psychologist) he freaked out. He realized – I was more ADD than ADD. He was in total shock. Now I’m on meds and he says there are far more things it is doing for me than I can ever know. He’s happy. He has no interest in learning the nuts and bolts of it – but, in his own way, he supports me. He gets it that I’m not “being ADD” because I don’t care, or don’t love him, or I’m being selfish. Our marriage is having a new honeymoon phase.

I know what you mean about new friends seeing that you want to be a star, and old friends/family seeing a negative picture. I’ve been around and around with that. Now, for the first time, I’m seeing old friends and family increase their respect for me instead of just decreasing and decreasing. I wonder – maybe I don’t have to keep finding new people and impressing them with my short-term magic tricks. Maybe I can just – – be.

Even if you have to go on meds on your own, without support from anyone, you have us on this forum – we get it… and maybe if your ADD symptoms start to improve, your husband and family will become more interested in what your doing and get behind you on it too. Believe me, when you start getting help for the right problem, the people around you will notice a difference. It’s so much more than just getting caught up with the laundry…

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