Lee9,
I agree with Wgreen and munchkin. This issue is much larger than just your husbands behavior, and the subsequent self esteem issues it generates for you. It is counterintuitive, but, I joined a support group that was just for me (not my ex’s behavior, lack of regard whatever). I found it to be very helpful and it greatly changed my perspective on how I was treating myself and my boyfriend at that time. There must be many groups in your area, and most of them are free. You might ask Dr. J for recommendations as I do not think it is appropriate to post group names here.
Best wishes for peace, love and light in your world. 