Re: Do you feel like a dissapointment?

[sdwa]

Sure. I think I have disappointed people. But I also grew up in a negative environment in which I felt that the severe problems and reactions of adults in my world were my fault, so who knows? I’m working on a shift from feeling defective and broken to just being wired differently and having that be okay.

What helped me a lot was reading Gabor Mate’s book “Scattered” – he has a couple of great chapters, one on “differentiation” (forming a separate identity, the opposite of enmeshment in relationships) and one on oppositionality (kneejerk defiance) which he says serves a similar function. “Scattered” is one of the deeper, more insightful books about ADHD I’ve seen.

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