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“This exceptional gift can go fuck right off. I dont’ want it.” I hear you. The sad thing is: it won’t, obviously. I know that I’m no where near where I could have been in life, had I been born without ADHD. And neither is my daughter, who is very bright but just as scattered as I am. She too did lousy at school, and has flitted from job to job.
Since we’re stuck with it, it just seems to me that we’re better off finding ways to make it work to our advantage if we can. I think if I were to dwell on the fact that I didn’t get the diagnosis until just a few years ago, and struggled all through life thinking there was something wrong with me (lazy, incompetent, borderline candidate for Alzheimer’s) I’d fall into depression. Having gone down that road before – to the point of almost doing the unthinkable – I’d rather not visit it again. Took quite a bit of therapy to come out of that dark place.
Seems to me that most of us are round pegs trying hard to fit into square holes. The good news is (at least for me) there are actually places in this world that serve as round holes. Like anything else, I view this as an opportunity to play to my strengths.
I’m no pollyanna. Far FAR from it. Not everyone can make the changes necessary to fit better. Not everyone has the monetary resources even to get diagnosed, much less get counselling or coaching. But I think we do have the ability to make choices where and when we can. If we’re lucky enough – as I am – we can find those places where such bright thoughts can work to our advantage.
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