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There may be a bit of an explanation for at least “SOME” of what folks feel when they believe others are making it all sound much more positive than they feel…..
Isn’t “finding out” a bit like the grieving process when you discover someone you love has died, or maybe has cancer, or discover that you have cancer?
There’s disbelief, anger, grieving, and so on – correct? And when someone is in one of those stages, there no way in heck they will get through it faster if you try to make them get out of the slump, and in fact, positive things can do the opposite from what I have seen. They must go through the natural process – and any attempt to stop or block that can be disaster. So I guess don’t take it personally if you have been through the process and have reached the stage where you can decide to move on – they’ll likely bite your head off, but in the future, not realize that’s what has happened.
Listening and support is not what is needed, not telling them that gee, it’s not so bad, really……….
At least that’s my armchair psychologist thinking! HA – and like so many other ADD folks – I know what I want to say here, I understand it in my head, but probably screwed it all up in how I REALLY said it.
Munchkin – keep being you. Good job and I’m truly happy for you. How could anyone not love that personality.
Sorry if I’m one of the head-biter-offers……….. but frankly, discovering that 54 years is lost – or maybe not lost, but was only 1/3 of what it could have been…… well……..
In reality, I’m one who is a “realist” – and when all these docs ask if I’ve ever been “depressed” or suicidal, and so on, or have ever taken drugs, etc – my response is always – no way in hell. I’m too high on living. Depressed? Yeah, I’ve been down, but I come out of it, I have that “snap out of it” moment, and I’m up and moving again. Never needed drugs or treatment for depression – and as a person who has been divorced twice, and farmed for several years – I’ve probably had reasons to be really depressed.
Besides, I’ve got too much stuff to do to stop living now!
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