the side effects with time will go away or diminish as i have seen with adderall 10 mg twice a day….i too had similar issues and family in denial..im 23 and a mother of one but sadly my ex spouse didnt do as your wife is…but i took that as a time to grow and find out what really was “wrong” with me and why i didnt see things as others did and why i took something and made it bigger than it was…i wanted to be so called “normal” and fit in not stick out as much as i was…..my psych likes concerta adn vyvanse but concerta didnt work for me but with school/work i may be switching to it. as for sleep till it slows down or diminishes i take OTC sleep med at walmart..it is what is in benadryl lots of ppl take it and it is safe unless you have been dx as allergic or know u are…..and no adverse effects just a bit groggy upoin awakiening but as i have cont with my meds i noticed i no longer need them so long as i take my medicine EARLY and get comfortable
TURN OFF EVERYHTING AND RELAX WITH A BOOK or meditation and slow music about 30 min to 1 hr before bed and it will ease u into sleep. i promise i had same issues before nad about went nuts between 2 jobs, school, and single mom…..i was sooo grumpy and unfuntional till my psych recommended this till i got used to the meds.
good luck 