Re: Advise from the grilfriend

[Anonymous]

William

I understand and have done the same things including forget birthdays (even after being reminded), appointments, etc. etc., etc.

I have been accused of the selective hearing as well. What I try to do is ask questions for clarification, if I sense I didn’t catch something I ask too. It sounds repetitive but I find that I am starting to improve my recall and also realize that there is nothing wrong with clarifying what has been said.

All of these new ways of handling things is since i became aware of my ADD. It is hard work for me to change and then do things consistently. I am entering a new job and I want to be successful…. for me it is very important.

Also in my relationships I want to do better and try to be a better listener. It also is helping me feel more connected to people.

The medication (Concerta) has helped me with all of this. I have confidence I am being managed by my doctor well so I have a better chance of managing some of these things.

Right now each day is very mentally tiring because i am trying to work on a lot of things (hopefully not to many). I slip up and I am also putting a daily plan together (the night before). in the plan is not just appointments and things to do. I also include reminders of behaviours I want to change

I have high hopes but I haven’t done these changes over a long time. Also when I start my new job I hope when things get stressful (which they will) I don’t revert back to old ways of coping.

I don’t have any specific advice on remembering names. For some reason I can remember names very well. I do make sure when I meet someone new that I make sure I ‘hear’ the name correctly. Then I verbally say it back for confirmation

REPORT ABUSE