I felt the same way kc5jck. That it might help my daughter if I found out for sure if it was something that I had as well. Mostly, I think it will help my family out a lot. I know I can do so so much more at work and beyond, but the nagging “you don’t finish what you start” or “how will you be organized enough?” doubts creep in.
I even applied for a promotion I want and don’t want at the same time. I wanted my boss to know I thought I was worth the job. But I’m scared to death that so much responsibility will be on me and so much expectation when it’s always just so hard making a “to do” list each day and getting it done. I don’t want this opportunity to slip by. I even told the psychiatrist that after my first interview, I had moments of, “did I even really answer the question they asked me?”
I’ve always joked to my friends that they never wanted to see inside my brain. It’s like a TV constantly changing channels or even a radio station with sometimes overlapping conversations.
When I go to the grocery store, I try to have a list, but usually I end up talking myself through all the things I need to get. It generally takes about an hour or more to shop even when my list had been short at the start.
In the end though, I can understand why I never put 2 and 2 together. My mom and her mom and a lot of my family members function the same way. (Which I just learned my cousins and their children are ADHD too.)
I do dislike the word “disability” though. I’m struggling a little bit with that idea. Things have always been hard, but I think my intelligence (I hope) and being able to grasp things quickly enough or “chameleon” around people to fit in has always protected me and made things work out somehow. It just isn’t as satisfying as I’d like though and I absolutely know that I can do so much more and I want to make sure my daughter knows she can too. I have always thought I could do better, but those little details that slip through bother the living daylights out of me.
I’ve “overshared” again, but thank you all for responding. It’s appreciated and good to know that there are so many others in the same boat. Now we just need to pick a direction to row it. 
Cancun anyone?