g.laiya sounds like you are making an effort to be a good mom which is what counts in the end. I believe if your kids know you care you are on the road to building a foundation for a good relationship in the long run. It’s the in between years that give us the gray hair I guess!!
Opostional-defiant has crossed my mind but this did not come up in the evaluation,apparently the comorbidity in my child’s case is anxiety which is why at first meds were not recommended.
I just started reading an interesting book related to all of this called Movers, Dreamers and Risk takers . The author is ADHD himself and a ADHD coach. One of the things he suggests is that we forget about the usual parental tactics and just basically do the opposite. Kind of reverse psychology I guess.
I haven’t decided if this book is really useful or not but he makes some interesting points. Humour is another tactic he suggests in dealing with kids like this vs criticism. Overall I guess what we’ve been saying all along in this thread – nagging, yelling and the likes doesn’t work anyway and the more you do it the worse the situation gets.
( http://www.amazon.com/Movers-Dreamers-Risk-Takers-Unlocking-Power/dp/161649204X) .
I did have a reasonable discussion today with the “difficult one” and tried to remember the above and at least we didn’t end up in a yelling match which I’m pleased about.
I think I will try to take it one day at a time and make myself mini goals related to dealing with this issue. I’m hoping with this tactic I won’t feel so overwhelmed.
Just remembered – for those of you dealing with younger kids and homework –
the book I mentioned above has lots of ideas for students.
One interesting one is he suggested kids move around in stations when doing homework. For example, do each subject in a different room instead of sitting still in one place.Kind of like in a Kindergarten classroom that is centre based. I guess you could set a timer for a certain time and then the child would switch activities.
Another tactic he suggests is switching kids with a friend who has a child with similar issues. I don’t mean trade them away for good just for homework!
After school they go home with the other person and can’t come home until the work is done. No TV or comforts of home should supposedly get them to work faster. The idea being children are less likely to argue with a non-parent.