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so yesterday i took the kids to visit my mom. my dad had already left, but she was doing relatively ok, and was still alert, and was happy to see us. the kids were also pretty well behaved, i was feeling pretty calm, so i decided to tell her about my diagnosis.
“mom do you remember what add is?” (she was an elementary school teacher, and one of her closest friends was i
high up in special ed, but it’s been a while so wanted to be sure)
“remind me what that stands for”
“attention deficit disorder”
“oh yes – of course! yes, i know what that is”
“well, i was recently diagnosed with that”
her reply……”so what?”
i was dumbfounded…….not at all the response i was expecting……
after a moment i continued, “what do you mean by ‘so what’?”
she replied, “so what – you are an adult now, you can think about what you want to do and just do it.”
i could feel my blood begin to boil, and decided this conversation needed to end soon.
i just said something like “you obviously don’t understand ” – actually may have just said it to myself….
anyway then she asks why i went seeking a diagnosis, and i said something to the effect of i knew something was wrong and i wanted to find out what. she responded “yes, there is something wrong.”
so she acknowledges she thinks that there is clearly something wrong with me which should be handled by a psych, but dimisses the diagnosis of add like i just told her i was diagnosed with allergic rhinitis.
and that was it…….it was time for us to go.
disappointing to say the least. not at all what i was expecting, nothing at all positive came out of it…..but, at least i kept my tone, volume, and language in check…..didn’t blurt out anything out of anger or frustration…..
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