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@megan, my parents are very controlling in other ways, and their natural instinct is always to dump on any ideas my brother & I have.
While some people see the glass as half-full and some see it as half-empty, they always see someone peeing in it.
So, my brother & I have learned to do things, and THEN tell them about it. Sometimes. Other times, we keep it between the two of us.
When I saved up my money and got a panniculectomy, this past summer, I only told my mom about it, 3 months after the fact, and I only told my dad about it just before Christmas—moments after my brother had told them he’d had a mini abdominoplasty & liposuction, a month after the fact.
My brother was clever, and had decided to tell them when Dad’s best-friend-since-childhood (who is a doctor) was visiting. The doctor enthusiastically congratulated both of us for doing something that will ultimately help to improve our health. We could see that Dad really wanted to do the usual thing (blow a gasket, and lecture us on “pissing your money away”), but he couldn’t, because the doctor was there, and approved of it all. So, he had to accept it.
@Amy, it sounds like your 4-year-old is kind of like me. When I find something I like, I can’t get enough of it, until, suddenly, I discover I’m so sick of it, I can’t stand it. This happened with Ramen noodles, homemade stir-fry, Lyoner bologna, Subway sandwiches, gummi worms…
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