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Hi Siniland, I have been where you are and feel strongly being at a loss. Our ages are not far apart. I am a male and my partner had the ADHD with DESR. Lots of anger along with the roller coaster ride from outbursts to kind and tender to indifferent. I unfortunately had little idea of what ADHD was. Although willing to help deal with it I didn’t know how. Her theory was the ADHD was everyone else’s problem and not hers. Your description seems to be what you can expect given his attitude (denial perhaps). I have lost my girl now due to an angry outburst over risky impulsive behavior. As a charismatic and agreeable person in public she has ruined my reputation and my career. She too had 3 children with adhd and all her siblings as well. You have to decide if you can live with things this way and adapt as much as you can. If your love is real it is worth it but only you can decide. I wish you good luck and all the best.
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