Reply To: ADHD/non verbal 40 yr old single father

[adhdj]

Well I’ve been at my new job for 3 months& dealing with more of the same business. My uncle got me a job through his client at a home building company helping the service coordination lady. Her daughter used to work here and I heard her one day basically very angry I got the job & that she has to train me.

The first month or so I for the most part didn’t have a computer to get my work or would have to rush to get my work done because someone else needed their computer & I’d make mistakes. Everyone here is over worked to the point of burn out.

My ADHD psychiatrist is nothing more than a drug dealer as I’ve begged him for help finding accommodating employers but insists he has no resources.

I’ve been with March Of Dimes for a year & a half who haven’t been able to help me find such an employer.

I live in the Niagara Region of Ontario after living in Montreal for 26 years since I was 12. My son’s mother and I moved back to Ontario in 2013 thinking it would be different. I thought Ontario had a lot more recognition, accommodation and resources for people with learning disabilities

I’ve been rejected 3 times by the Canadian Government for disability, they don’t think my case is legitimate even under the new government.

I don’t want to be on the system as a statistic, all I’ve wanted is a chance to be able to take care of myself/family doing something I enjoy being well paid for it

I had problems in school but graduated college in Quebec. Most of my jobs have been customer service oriented clients are always happy with my service but it’s never good enough for my employers

I have seen that at some work places I’ve had, it’s not just me having problems but everybody

I feel lost, empty & alone. I have a few friends in Montreal but don’t really have friends here. No matter how good of a person I try to be to people, people don’t like me. All I hear from everyone is that I’m making excuses including my son’s mother

I don’t know where else to turn to, I’ve tried to find resources in the area online but can’t seem to find anything.

I can’t seem to meet any women around here as it’s a smaller area compared to Montreal. I never had a problem meeting women before my son’s Mother.

She always treated me better, differently than others and accepted who I was.

She would get so frustrated with me that my confidence wasn’t higher and when I’d loose jobs, have trouble at jobs or couldn’t find a job she said that I was a child and couldn’t be with someone like that nor did she want to take care of two children.

Ever since the miscarriage, she started treating me like everyone else in the world

Nothing I ever do was/is good enough for anyone, not employers, my ex-wife, family members or friends that I’ve had.

I always try my best with everything that I do but never seems to matter.

Lately out in public at stores or whatever, I see people just shove through people without saying excuse me or pardon me, I’ve had a few people that I say excuse me or pardon me who are just plain rude back to me.

My apologies for the long posts I’m in desperate need of help as I’m totally fed up. I’m just trying to survive and take care of my son without having to take handouts from people.

No one understands, they think it’s just excuses.

Thank you for any help anyone

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