Hello DebbieEhm and Brian…since Brain agreed with me on a earlier forum I would have to agree with him on his post. I have a life coach I use and I’m able to work through what it is that I’m feeling. Counseling isn’t the only aspect of what it is that you need to do but surrounding yourself around good positive supportive people is essential to feeling good otherwise we can tair ourselves apart (I’m such a bad speller and my vocabulary suffers because of it) quite easily. I have great friends and a wonderful husband who supports me.
Brain, Brain…boy do I hear you on the money…I can make it quickly and I can spend it just as fast…drives me crazy and everyone else around me. I don’t trust myself and now I’ve been labeled implusive money spender and I hate it because I feel that know matter what I try to do to change my attitude towards money I get shot down everytime…it is almost like they are all waiting for me to screw up. I’m pretty stuborn but I tend to screw up with money more then anything else in my life. I wish there was a forum just on money alone. I’m trying out a new strategy (very darn good at problem solving-implementing a little different) and that is I calculated what I had to have in the bank to pay bills fixed expenses and some options (hair cut etc) as well as savings for the futher and any trips. I then calculated what out of pocket or cash I used during the week and figured out what I would need everyday and I came up with an equal amount from Monday to Thursday and realized Friday and Saturday I spend usually more so more money goes into those days. When I’m out of cash that is it; however, if I have any extra money it goes into my 8th envelope which I call the “bonus” envelop I’m opening a tax free savings account for the savings and and my bonus envelop.
So today I had $50 and I only used $20 get $30 into bonus…
obviously I don’t have a life on Saturday but I spent all my money on Friday and I had to go into my bonus envelope – didn’t like that. Do i know if this is going to work…it has been 8 days and so far so good…so i’ll go until I come up with something better or it doesn’t do what it needs to…I not someone who sabatoges myself so I know that it will really have to be that it doesn’t work for me. I would really like to figure out why i’m so impulsive. I have to work really hard at not spending money…i do want to save…honestly.
I’m hoping that works for you and Debbie get that phone hooked up and get your life to where it needs to be because you will feel much better about everything.
Elizabeth
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