Hi W_W,
I hearing what you’re saying and the depression can be difficult a long with everything else that you are feeling. I would love to tell you that what you are feeling or going through is all part of the symptoms but I don’t want to minimize your feelings / thoughts. I believe that we are all very hard on ourselves because we “should” be able to do what everyone else in life can do and I have come to the conclusion…not in my life time. I can’t keep up and I get overwhelmed and want to turtle. I came to some sort of conclusion that I’m happy to do what I can do and I have realized that I can’t compare myself to someone who doesn’t have adhd. I also have made it a point to live my life one day at a time. I have short term goals and long term goals. I do know that sometimes these goals change or I have to tweak them but that’s okay…it’s part of life. The other thing I have done is actually asked for help…from my husband, coworkers, friends…and because of this i’ve enjoyed more of the little things in life. Also, I will take a little bit longer to complete something. (given that I have a timeline that allows for a long time period to complete). I’ve reduced the about of excuses I make and so it has been easier…I would say to you be a little bit more verbal with your thoughts without being too aggressive.
So, have some fun with life and live in the moment…life is far to short to live it for perfection.
Have a great day today 
Elizabeth
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