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We are rarely upset about what we are upset about.
When someone is angry at a child, spouse, coworker or themselves about something, there is almost always something else, or something more going on.
We’re upset at the computer screwing up because what we’re really upset about is not being prepared and not having it handled and not anticipating something could go wrong. It’s not about the computer, right here and now. It’s about all the past screw ups. All the times it’s happened before. And of course, the worst… HOW IT IS GOING TO BE LIKE THIS FOREVER AND EVER! I’M A SCREW UP!
My dad was an insurance agent. When some of his clients had a small car accident, they saw it as a nuisance involving some bent sheet metal. But to others it was infuriating! “The other driver was an idiot, the people who designed the roads were morons, etc.. etc..”
Same accident. Whole different view of what their car meant to them. One person put out, the other was able to complain for days how some idiot had ruined their week! When of course their attitude was what ruined the week and was ruining their life.
Several years ago, when Ava banged up my Prius in a parking lot (The other driver’s fault) she was worried about how I’d react. (A holdover from her past.)
So when she told me, and I knew she was okay, well, it was some bent sheet metal. She was almost in tears in relief. (I earned huge bonus points with her for not being upset.)
Have I gotten off topic again?
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