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This is brilliant. Make sure you thank her again and again for letting you know. That took courage.
And give her permission to help you, (assuming you want to progress) to offer other suggestions. I say this because over the past two days I’ve scanned through hundreds of quotes from interviews with many of the experts we have spoken to who haven’t yet been included in many of our online videos. Quite a few talk about how we are not good at self assessment.
We aren’t. The reason, as several explained, may be because we are born this way. It’s wiring. It’s who we are. So we don’t know any different. Unlike say Depression where you can look back and go, “I didn’t used to be this sad.”
So this isn’t a disease. In fact, it’s our normal.
When you have someone giving you valuable feedback, and then even more amazing when you let it in and say, “I think you’re right.” and then even better, actually post it and start working on it, you are on your way to mastering this.
The trick is not to take it personally. That’s something every person struggles with. ADHD or not.
Notice your friend started off by complimenting you on a strength. (A key to getting our attention. ADDers love positives.)
Then she was clearly struggling to say what she wanted to say, but you were obviously worth it to her.
How great is that?
That’s a real friend.
You call it blunt. It’s honest.
This also rings for me because Ava and I were on a call this afternoon about the documentary going on PBS stations and again and again Ava tugged on her ear to remind me to just listen. By the end of the call, every issue had been resolved and we were in a great position. And we’d just listened and asked questions.
Wow.
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