I like what you’ve written, WW – in both comments.
This is all fairly new to me – within the past year or so – although I’ve always had a problem with focus since I was a kid. I emphatically agree with your thought about not defending, and in fact, that’s been my habit (not defending) on pretty much everything else. But because ADHD is so new to me, I kind of forgot. Sort of. 
Like migraines, ADHD is hard to understand unless you’ve actually experienced it. Can’t tell you how many times when I was younger that my boss or friends looked at me in a weird way when I told them I couldn’t make it into work, or go out for a party because of a migraine. “What? You’re staying home because of a headache???” Sort of the equivalent of “you can’t finish this project because of a lack of focus? Well GET FOCUSED! TRY HARDER.”
Ugh. Ugly, no matter which way you look at it.
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