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Well billd I have to agree…… it may just be our analytical mind that seems to be a strength and a vulnerability as well!!! I would think (for myself ) that constant analysis or criticism , interrupting, talking over, in a relationship would be anything but solid building blocks!!!
True-ism…… sometimes people or partners just want to talk….it is the other partners job to simply listen. I know the the active brain really is driven to interject and solve…….. but……. listening really listening… allows the other person to sort their thoughts and more often than not allows them to sort through and come up with a solution on their own. Listening I have found brings a closeness and intimacy to any relationship….even work related.
Sidebar…. for those people who have issues following direction “active listening” is a great tool. At some point “active listening” requires the listener to repeat back to the person talking ( a condensed version) of the speakers words…. repeat back what they just heard and ask the speaker for confirmation!! This process cements the message in the listeners head and… provides positive feedback to the speaker that they are being heard!! Great tool for relationships and work the environment.
There are many articles on “Active Listening” which may assist active brain people in conversation and relationships. I have found it very valuable throughout my life in my social, partner and particularly parenting roles. It is a neat tool that focuses me in on the conversation and requires me to be active but KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT for the most part…… hahahahahaha!!! A valuable skill indeed!!
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