Re: ADD and marriage

[Anonymous]

K — pretty much everything you said did make sense — I can relate. Does it make sense that I think you need to focus more on what you need to do – and the rest will follow. Mostly. If you tell your spouse that you are only asking this of him/her because it (these ADD protocols) has helped you and you love them! It’s sometimes easier to let someone help you when you know they are doing it out of love and not for thier (our) selfish reasons. I hope you take that in the good way it is meant. I say it because I find myself doing mainly things that will benefit me. If I do such things, and they benefit someone close to me that’s ok too. But I digress, becuase I started this thought meaning that once we know what to do for ourselves to help ourselves and make us more healthy, those who love us will benefit. (this was one thought — I think there I ADD).

Spice – ADD has this internal process that makes us both strive for (unattainable) perfection, and sometimes doubt our every thought and move. I have a cinematic ability in my head to spin complex endings to the most innocent events. Mostly I spin them downwards into a worst possible outcome. Don’t do that. I beg of you — 99.9% of the time I am wrong and I expend a huge amount of emotional energy in that direction. I don’t know if the comment was for me, or the thread – but you said “someone outside of your marriage”. We start marriage conseling on Jan 3rd. This week hasn’t been good and just yesterday (same day I started meds), a huge trust issue came up and I am very despondent. Sorry to end on a sour note – but it’s what it is. Keep replying you guys!

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