Re: Do we tend ot be loners?

[vikki9]

Yes – absolutely a loner… all my life. I have a few close friends that I’ve known for years which is wonderful. I can make new friends if those folks make the effort – I usually don’t have the confidence.

Coupled with my recent ADD diagnosis is narcolepsy. This is a combination to keep one to oneSelf! I’ve found mySelf in social situations (that I was not successful in talking mySelf out of, or did not have a choice to attend) barely able to chit-chat and keeping a distance from the activities… if I sit down… and I’m by mySelf… I’m asleep. A nightmare if ever there was one. Being a loner is much, much preferred over falling asleep in public all the time… ALL the time.

Another result of this odd behavior is the lack of invitations I receive. Odd indeed. Because of the ADD and narcolepsy, historically I accept very few invitations out of fear that chit-chat will not flow and I may/will fall asleep. Then, as I sit home, my sad little Self wonders why I never get invited anywhere. I must then remind mySelf that when I do receive an invitation, I don’t accept it – Duh. It doesn’t take too many ‘No thank yous’ to stop the invitations.

Now I am on medication and the ADD is managed as well as the narcolepsy. I still do not have a great deal of confidence when it comes to social situations. Maybe that will change over time. If not, there are worse fates than being a loner. Loner should not be confused with lonely – I’m rarely lonely.

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