Re: has any one be put on disability

[dspicelady]

Trashman, I hope you read this with the good intentions that are meant, but honey, if she can’t see the wonderful human being that you so clearly are, then it’s her loss! You have to stop with the low IQ crap(I say this lovingly) because there are people out there with enormous IQ’s who are horrible people. While IQ has some value in this world, it does not make anyone worthwhile in the grand scheme of things. Kindness, patience, caring. Those things are infinitely more important and have nothing to do with IQ, and you have those qualities in abundance.

You have struggles? Do you actively try to work them? Do you try to improve yourself everyday? My guess is, yes! Do you have some failures? Doesn’t everyone?

I really hope you can see that I’m not trying to yell at you. I really want to come over to where ever you are right now and give you a shake, though. lol! Because, I read your posts, and you make me smile. You make me see that others are going through similar things and aren’t giving up. YOU ARE GOOD!

I have people in my life that aren’t ready or willing to understand my ADD. Maybe as a concept, but not a reality. They think, I should be able to take a pill and their lives will be great. They are not willing to learn about it or understand, truly understand, and maybe even help me with it. I’m guessing that’s true with your wife. So I feel ya. (By the way, my IQ is high average and people close to me still think I’m crazy, so go figure!)

One thing I’m learning for me, is that I can only learn for me. If your wife doesn’t want this challenge, you can’t force it on her. I am sad for the both of you, if things go bad. But remember we ADDer’s do tend to see the worst case scenerios, and maybe if you do go on assistance, some of the $ stress would be lifted and you could focus on something that would be blissful! Maybe she won’t kick you to the curb at all.

I understand when you say you would need to work or do something productive. Maybe this could be an opportunity. I’m trying to look at the bright side here. Before you make any decisions, please look at some of the positives of being on assistance because there are some. Volunteer work, can keep you grounded and structured. There is sure to be something you like to do, but have not had the time because you were too busy trying desperately to earn an acceptable living.

I do not presume to have any answers for you, but hope you start viewing yourself in the positive light I see you. Having you here on this site, and reading your posts helps me everyday. Thank you

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