Re: Impulse and sound judgement

[Anonymous]

Well giastorm…… from what I see you have a good working tool list there. We do excell at those things we practice so stay on them!!! Taking notes in place of talking (blurting) is always good…….. I also understand if an idea was good at the time…. it will still be good in a few minutes……… and at times holding a thought, and/or making the note and then reflecting a moment will often actually produce an even better response. Easy to say may be harder to do eh????

I did take a course called “Active Listening” one of our HR teams required seminars for Managers. I won’t get into to details this is not the place but, I found that skills required to really “Active Listen” gave my noodle…… a good bit of activity. Active listening also put me in the present……. and helped me stay there. It is also somewhat interactive, or can be, and gives the speaker a real sense that your are with them. I did post some info on that process on the site here somewhere can’t recall where exactly right now….. very basic stuff…. but anyway…you might look into that. I know the process worked well for me in the workplace and in social situations as well. Nice thing about that tool is you can use like I said socially….which allows you to experiment and practice and take the initial mechanical sound out of your conversation until it becomes natural. Now that I think of it, I still use active listening…. it has become a part of my conversational tool kit. It actually drove my partner nuts for quite a while until it became natural for me…. now I think of it, it even helped in the partner/relationship department.

Hahaha…… e-mail (sorry I had to laugh), yes often wished for a un-send button but nope!!!! I had a good work mate whom I trusted… and would get them to look over my e-mails before I sent them…… if they were a little “hot”, I made sure to have a second opinion. Edit Edit Edit….. easier than unsend!!!!!

I do understand the “snap” thing but I believe it can be over come……. I did it, god knows I’m no whiz! Like anything else practice, practice practice and staying aware. Active Listening may just help……..

My counselor told with two ears and one mouth you would think it is easier to listen than speak…..hahahhahahaha.

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