Reply To: I get so frustrated with myself sometimes. Please share your story as well

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Lewtheadhdkid,

You’re definitely not alone in this. I feel that my (undiagnosed) ADHD has caused similar distress. I tend to be overly harsh and critical of myself when I know I’m procrastinating or forgetful. Right now, I’m supposed to be finishing and submitting a final paper but here I am on this forum…

I think it is important to learn to be compassionate towards yourself. In other words, you should try to forgive yourself for making mistakes. I think it is harmful when we focus on our shortcomings and ‘failures’ but the fact that you care and are trying hard says more about yourself than your mistakes do.

I understand the frustration may actually come from the external pressures to perform like “normal” people – as ALL people feel this pressure. I’m definitely not an expert but our frustration is expected… since we all feel the need to meet the standards imposed by society. Regardless of where we come from, what gender we are, etc., not meeting these standards may result in judgment from others – like our parents, peers, other family members, strangers… Just remember that nobody is perfect and we are all trying to fit into a role that we believe we should. Not to say that we all have the same experience, but our unique circumstances create the unique people we are and will become…

It’s inspiring to see that you care a great deal about tackling your ADHD. Have you explored other treatments alternative to medication? Recently, I’ve been trying meditation. I’ve also heard that physical activity really helps… which is definitely something I need more of.

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