Hi ADDled. I’m a stay-at-home mom with three girls that are 2, 4, and 6, but I do know how you feel. I not only have ADD, but I have epilepsy and have had major depression also.
I’m understanding that you are really wanting to have a fresh start and want go as far as you can with a possible new job. That’s great!
You do not have to tell anyone that you have ADD. Many people have a very big stigmatism against it, and that’s sad.
I know that the only way that a new job will be benificial to you and your employer is by you telling them. Just wait until you are hired though. That way, you will:
a) be shown as an honest worker;
b) be given the type and amount of work that will be benificial to you and the company; and
c) at least be shown of not being ashamed of having ADD.
I went to lots of schools and had lots of jobs before becoming a mother, so I know what its like to feel like you do. Don’t belittle yourself because others are basically being the ‘bullies’ of the company! It was like that for me for most of my life, and trust me, if you start to stand up for yourself it takes tones of weight off your shoulders!! It’s hard to do, but if you start to admit not only to yourself, but others that you have ADD, you will get into the habit. And trust me, it’s worth it! Good Luck! 