I agree with ipso and kc about your daughter. You say she has some anxiety issues. These might be due to ADHD (even if she doesn’t know it) or due to her father’s behaviour, or both.
You just need to stay in tune as kc said – and be ready to act if things start to get a bit wobbly at school.
I understand what you mean about the cultural aspects. I think you’re wise to go for the angle of him being an example.
Just a thought relating to the issue of you and your daughter ‘going it alone’. You say that sometimes things are OK. That should read ‘most of the time things are OK’. If you and your daughter feel like you’re permanently walking on egg shells then that’s not healthy for either of you.REPORT ABUSE