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There will come a point, Elizabeth, where you will actually get tired of talking about it. At least, talking about it all the time.
I think it came at some point when I realized that the diagnosis did explain a lot of stuff from my past and stuff I had done, both good and bad. But that since it was in the past, it was… history. I found I was reliving all this stuff, and missing out on the present and even more, avoiding looking ahead to the future. One of the experts we interviewed, Dr. Annick Vincent, talked about looking in the rear view mirror when you drive, but that to get where you want to go, safely, means spending more time looking ahead at what’s coming at you.
On the weekend I was doing a panel on ADHD at a Science Fiction convention, with Glenn Norman and Michelle Goodeve, a couple of fellow ADDers and there were several people in the room who had gotten the diagnosis recently. And boy, it reminded me how all consuming it can be at first. It’s kind of like “Everything you knew about yourself is up for grabs.” And you want people to know it wasn’t necessarily you.
And I wanted people to stop judging me. Because I felt very strongly they were wrong to do that, an insensitive, and unfair and they owed me an apology… and look what happened, I was judging them.
Mostly what I realized is that no one else cared nearly as much about it as I did. Unless they were struggling with the same thing. Which I guess is why I love this website so much.
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