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I suspect she doesn’t have realistic expectations about what it’s going to take to change your behavior, and how much better it can or cannot get, and how long that will take…
She doesn’t have ADHD, so from her point of view, you must not really want to improve, or you would do it. This is how it works in her own life, and she doesn’t know anything different… She has no way of knowing how unsupportive this sounds…
I don’t know you, so I have no idea if some of that might be right… do you think you are dwelling on aspects of ADHD that are holding you back? Do you think you might be depressed, which is keeping you from pursuing treatment and lifestyle changes that could help you improve?
I bet she does care, and maybe she would be willing to learn more or read up on ADHD in order to be a better support person. I don’t think what she emailed you was super constructive, but she probably woudn’t say if she didn’t care… She took the time to try to communicate with you and voice her perception of the situation – it’s a start?
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