Re: Avoiding sex, yet addicted to sex?

[Anonymous]

Im a female sex addict with add. The mind of a sex addict with add is too complex to be able to know exactly why he is the way he is. He probably avoids taljung about it because he doesnt quite understand it himself. For me, and possibly for him, SEEING sex/nudity/sexual things is like an answer to our add/addicts mind. The add part wants us to see more and more different things, the sex addict part makes all those different things fall under the umbrella of things pertaining to sex. This somehow equates to the need to have many scattered sexual oppurtunities such as viewing hours of porn often switching from video to video ir go from strip club to strib club.its as if the goal is to see ever breast ass vagina and penis the world has too offer. Its much less about actually seeking orgasm or even arousal sometimes. Not that he is neccesarily a cheater but if he has the same mind as i do, he can be head over heals in live but want to sit face to face with somebodies genitals just because. I HAVE NO CLUE WHY! its actually a very nerve rackcing thing because it can go beyond acceptable/legal realms. I often times wonder how many “pedofiles” are actually very disgusted at the thought of such a thing but one day watching porn find their way down the kiddie aisle just because they wanted to see more and more sexual things buthad already seen thousdands of flicks from the other genres. Im not excusing pedofiles but i just worry because as motherly and over protective as i am, when im having an unsually low day in my addictiin and add both ive ventured into different genres of porn that were completey gross to me yet i either got into or i atleast found intriguing.i always fear that one day ill end up looking at sonething illegal and get caught or worse, like it. Its all about the hunt for more exposure to sexual things. Not that he doesnt like sex with you but thats ground he has already covered. In his subconscous he needs to use ur sex time to go out n find more. Hes the kinda guy that would jump at the oppurtunity to be in an orgy/3sum. He may nit actually enjoy the sex of it alk that much but its the ultimate exposure. I have had group sex numerous timea in numerous groups. I hate it. I crave it. I have joined many dating sites strictly to see thiusands of naked bodies n sleep with as many if them as I can. I dont actualy want to have aex with them. I just want to see them naked or seem them aroused or in any sexual light. Unfoetunately for me part od mt own personal issues is the inability to say no, so I pretty much sleep with any person I meet, male or female even though im digusted be sleeping with my own gender. I even sleep with dirty nasty guys that are ugly. All because I just want to see some kind of sexuality exibited fron them. Again that scares me because im afraid if one day a minor should ask for sex, or a person who admitedly has HIV.

Because of alk this, sex owns me and is a negative thing in my life. Altho hooefully not as extreme as my addiction, ur boyfriend may also see sex negatively even though he loves it. He probably views you as a positive thing and would rather not taint that by sullying yiu with his negative sexual desires.

Sexual addiction is no joke. Most addicts with a coaddiction view sexual addiction as being harder than their drug or alcohol addiction. Withdrawal symptoms arent as bad but full recovery seems near impossible. ADD just makes this 10x worse. As hard as it sounds, the best thing to do is be there for him when he is ready ti have sex with you thoae few times and make each if those times mind blowing. Dont try and seduce him by wearing something different but have like 5 outfits on standby and on the few times hes ready for sex change into an outfit. Afterwards dont bother him bout sex again until hes ready even if its a month later. This time have a completey diff outfit on. Also what is very helpful is if maybe thia month ur always completely bare and then after you have sex switch to a designand keep that design so that its ready for him the next time he is in the mood. Make it so that every time he wants sex theres a surpriae waiting for him down their. This will hopefully result in him wanting to find out what that surpriae is more often. Awhile after getting into the swing of having sex regularly, you wont need to bait him with vaginal surprises. He will just want the sexual time with yiu without feeling pressured into doing it.

Hope things work out for you.

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