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I agree TooFat. Finding the right person is key.
I remember going to a Marriage Counsellor when my first marriage was ending and it felt completely perfunctory. Professional. Nice. Pleasant. But simply someone dispensing observations and generalizations. That said, we only went once.
The other big factor in therapy is actually the patient. You. Or in my case, me. If you are clear what you want therapy for, if you are prepared to be honest, to share it all, to be vulnerable and open and take the coaching, things will progress. If you’re just showing up to kind of rehash the week and come away feeling a bit better, or convince the therapist that it’s everyone else’s fault (Whatever the problems are) then I suspect it will quickly become another dead-end relationship. Albeit professional. I have known a couple of people who have had a complete mental breakdown. Complete. Very successful people. They ended up in a Psych Ward, locked up. And both of them, very early one, surrendered to the process. They did what the Doctor’s suggested. They made use of all the classes, workshops, therapy sessions, activities, day trips, you name it. And they turned their lives around very quickly. One told me that there were group therapy sessions every evening at 7:00, and it wasn’t mandatory but everyone was encouraged to go. Only two people about of forty in the ward went. They were the first ones to find their stability, be released, and get back to their lives.
A marriage counsellor doesn’t have to be an expert about ADHD, but you can send them here and get them up to speed as quickly as you can.
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