I don’t think it’s so much a memory of what happened, but an association of the behaviour. A prime example is toilet training, we all know, those of us that are physically able to get up and go to the toilet, that when we feel that urge to pee or poop, we know that if we don’t get up and go to the toilet then we will soil our pants, another example, touching a hot stove, it one only has to burn them selves once to learn not to touch a hot stove. As for good associations, eating, we have leaned that when our stomach grumbles and hurts that we are hungry, we eat some thing and our stomach doesn’t hurt any more. Our reaction to all of these examples are a choice, we choose to go to the bathroom rather then shit in our pants, we choose to eat some thing, and we choose not to put our hand on a hot stove. Yes these are extreme examples, but they are all learned behaviors, positive and negative out comes to the choices we make.
Yes humans are more complex then dogs, that’s why it should work even better on us. I hope you feel better soon librarian_chef, I hope I haven’t offended you, it certainly wasn’t my intention to, I know how hard it is…..it sucks, it’s evern more heart wrenching to watch your kids go though it and have other people judge them for things they can’t help.
Take care, I hope you find what works for you soon.REPORT ABUSE