Re: Embarrassing Moment

[Anonymous]

Since you’re conscious of it, and you’ve developed the coping mechanisms, I wouldn’t worry about one bad performance. I’ve been in the same place, and afterward been highly critical of myself only to find that most didn’t even notice my failure. Be careful how much blame you place on ADD, and how much of the problem was just compounded by good old-fashioned stress. Could it have been self-imposed stress?

I have a poster on my wall with a quote from an admiral who was in the Spanish-American war. It says “Victory was the consummation of thorough preparations.” So we have to spend a little more time preparing. So what? It reduces the chances of stress, prevents us from getting too far off track, and if we can combine those extra preparations with a day that we’re extremely focused, we usually hit multiple home-runs.

You’re obviously farther along in your journey than I am, but I’ve decided to keep this to myself–except for family and maybe a few close friends. What I have is mild. I’m here to learn some more skills and tricks to improve my performance. I’m also here to build up my confidence–a lot of the things I considered failures on my part have turned out to just be symptoms of ADD. Symptoms that if I had known how to recognize them I could’ve accepted, handled, and moved on.

I think a lot of us spend way too much time over-analyzing and beating ourselves up. That’s my biggest problem. I read a Dr. Phil quote not too long ago, basically he said that we wouldn’t worry nearly as much about what other people thought of us if we only knew how seldom they did.

You’re better than you think. In fact, you’re probably better on a bad day than a lot of your co-workers are on a good day.

It’s okay to be arrogant. We have superior brains, we just don’t know how to use them. Put me behind the wheel of a pickup truck and I’m a good driver. Put me in a Lamborghini at night with GPS, iPod, iPhone and limited visibility and I’ll probably run it in a ditch. Once we learn how to drive our Italian sportscar brains, we leave everybody else in the dust. It’s no contest.

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