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Re: Finding a consultant – extremely upset and confused. I feel like a failure.

Re: Finding a consultant – extremely upset and confused. I feel like a failure.2011-08-09T14:03:43+00:00

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Okay, now I’ve calmed down, I appreciate my reaction may have been quite strong, but the woman WAS being unpleasant and it helps to realise that. The conversation went something like this:

Does the doctor have experience in treating adults with ADHD?

Of course he does. What do you think he does?

I don’t know. That’s why I’m asking.

You don’t call a specialist and expect to get to know everything about him.

I don’t want to know everything about him. I just need to know a couple of things…

Can I find out if I can be tested for ADHD in this first appointment or will there be further appointments needed?

How do I know? I’m not the doctor. You’re not going grocery shopping you know. You’re asking for a specialist so you just go along and do what he asks.

I don’t think I’m really making myself clear and I’m sorry if I sound confused, but I’m just trying to find out what happens next.

You have to ask him that.

Can I arrange to speak to him – or to someone who can explain to me what will happen?

No, you just turn up.

I’m worried about that because if it’s not what I need, I will have spent the money I have on this and I won’t be able to afford another doctor.

You’re treating this like grocery shopping…

I’m sorry I’ve started crying, but I’m just looking for help.

I think you need to see your GP because you sound very stressed.

(Passes phone to hubby at this point.)

Once I calmed down I phoned another clinic. First thing she said when I told her I’d like an ADD test:

Oh that’s great. A lady came in last week for the same thing. It costs £X amount, will last X time and you’ll know by the end of it if that’s what’s wrong. Would you like to book an appointment?

How different is that?!

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