Re: first impressions of you

[munchkin]

I think the “first impression” is unconscious for people – a product of their upbringing and experience. Maybe they’ve never run into anyone like you, so they stick you into a funky box… It is actually possible to learn the basic boxes people use and fit yourself to the box that will be more likely to get you what you want – there’s something yicky about it, but if that’s what you have to do to put a roof over your head, that’s what you’ve got to do. I agree it’s exhausting!

I can tell you – I don’t have very good boundaries or impulse control. I make a spectacle out of myself without even realizing it, and tell strangers way too much personal stuff. Perhaps if I had a better natural sense of what are normal social expecations and how I’m coming off to others, there wouldn’t be this whole issue of judging who I am as a person. I could be shallow with the shallow people and deep with my “real” friends without even being conscious of it. No energy expended… How does an ADD’er improve in this area? interesting thought…

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