Re: Girls

[Anonymous]

pmfcg, hey how are things going? better maybe? I’m a late long winded poster so here ya go. I’ll try to keep it short.

I tend to do the same thing if i’m not really into the girl. If its a situation where a girl hits on me and it works out then I usually am in the same boat as you. I find every little thing starts to anoy me. One thing you have to remember if they do or do not have ADHD is if they understand your ADHD. The last time I was in a relationship that was initiated by the girl I didnt know I had ADHD. I would hyper focus on things that interested me like my art, or i’d play a video game for hours and hours and hours on end, neglecting everything. So that would start problems, and there would be resentment from the girl and then from me. As soon as that started i’d start to nit pick and i’d find faults.

Now i’m also a wreck about girls. I suck at dating, I have no confidence in myself and i think everything is going to end in disaster. I talk a good game and I try to be optomistic but in reality it all blows up in my face.

The current girl that i’m with is what I would consider to be a perfect match although our track record would tell you otherwise. She’s hurt me time after time over the course ot the last year and continues to break my hear on an hourly rate. I would love nothing more than to have her be my support (because behind every great man is a greater woman) (not that women should be behind men)

I obviously love her, which on that note, some scientist agree that love is a form of OCD how cool huh? maybe thats why ADDers have a hard time with finding love, I think we tend to obsess over the ones we love.

If your in a relationship (and I need to take my own advice) and the person your with doesnt make you feel special in any way, or if you dont feel like a better person when you are around them, if you can think about them and a smile doesnt come across your face you may not be right for each other. Even though i’m in such a bad relationship and this person in my life hurts me so much, I cant help but to smile every day when I see her, grimiss at the thought of her durring my day, wake up and tell her good morning even if she’s not next to me. Thats what I think it is for me when I know i’m in the right place in my heart. I cant control the other person and if they dont like me or whatever then thats that.

Sorry if it is cryptic, or if I rambled, or whatever. stupid rambling.

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