Also you mentioned the pressure you feel. If you can you will want to try to use that to motivate you and not let it crush you.
This excites me because it it something I know. I am excited to have truly figured out what I can change about me and what others nweed to accept. It is a whole process and your post reminded me how special it is that I have begun learning that process.
I hope for all the best for you and your partner in your process!! 