Re: How to succeed in a marriage when one spouse has ADD

[Anonymous]

@bobmcdougall Thank you! I have ADD and my husband is the linear thinking one. We will be celebrating 20 years of marriage in May and I can honestly say that we are still together because of God. My husband spent the first 15 years enabling my ADD instead of helping me take responsibility for it and I spent it in denial and depression because I just wanted to be “normal”. When life hit rock bottom we discovered a support group called Celebrate Recovery. Going through the 12 step study helped us to work through my depression and codependancy (in the beginning I said I was recovering from ADD also, Now I know it is not a “curse” but a part of me to be embraced) and my husband worked through enabling and other issues also. We have the most awesome marriage!! I am medicated properly and I accept my ADD and embrace it, we have developed tools for day to day life that include God being in the picture and my Blackberry (my life is in that phone, keeps track of appointments and numbers, etc.). My husband is amazing and has accepted that we will never have a spotless house and I will never be good with money, yet I have many amazing talents thanks to my ADD! I love and accept myself for who I am!

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