Re: I am a 23 year old female just found out and my boyfriend wont understand

[Anonymous]

My husband is super understanding but my first was not. You have an advantage that I didn’t then. You understand/know why you are the way you are now. I had no way of knowing and neither did he (not that it excuses his behavior toward me or the years of emotional abuse.) If he’s willing, I’d have him read up on ADHD with you (there are great books on relationships out there (as related to ADHD)). If possible to take it further, try getting couples counseling.

He’s obviously going to be hurt about the things you’ve done or said, but with counseling, (potentially medication), and patience, you can get through it. I don’t want to say that if he doesn’t understand, someone else out there will because that’s a very ADD sort of thing (I’ve learned), but at the same time, I’ve also been reading that the right person/right relationship and right job make a world of difference. If he’s not right (and you’re not right for him), that may be something to explore AFTER you’ve tried everything else.

Most importantly, stay positive, keep a journal of everything you do in a day, how much time it takes, how it makes you feel, and maybe even share that with him. I’ve just started jounalling myself and I’m hoping I can start seeing more of how things affect me and how I react to things better.

Remember, it’s your life to live, and you’re worth living for.

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