Love this forum conversation. I became a stay home almost immediately. I was married at 23 and pregnant 9 mnths and 1 week later 
(just in case my very european mother finds out) before that I went to school to be a secretary hated it and somehow became a dental assistant. I enjoyed it but couldn’t get certified because I didn’t have the focus to complete the independent studies. I knew how to have babies and that is what I did. The girls and I had a lot of fun but my house was a mess and I couldn’t stay on a schedule…long story short I divorced 6.5 yrs into my marriage.
I went back to school and took Marketing…to my surprise I graduated with honours (I had to work 10x harder). When I completed the program. I need to pay loans and bills. I had bought my own home and it needed help and so I needed to make money. Sales, Sales Sales is what I thought I needed because I was always on the move and most people liked me and buildiing and securing relationships came easy to me. Securing the sales, problem solving, delivering the product was my forte, but paper work oh my God not happening and my employers also felt the sameand the clients but I got away with “people like me”.. I typically lasted at a job for 2 yrs and the got bored. First time I was fired was at 41 yrs old…couldn’t believe that they had waited 2 yrs to do it. I dove into my own business – am a relationship coach who specializes in matchmaking. I am very successful and what I enjoy the most is the different people I get to meet and work with. I realized that what feeds me is watching someone understand why they made the past relationship choices and then watching them practice what the have learned in a relationship with the person I have matched them with.
I was ready to throw in the towel a year ago because I just couldn’t keep anything organized. My assistant was ready to kill me and my husband was feeling neglected and I did’t know why I was feeling crazy and nolonger knew anything about myself.
I absolutely have found my way and I find that I work through mot of my to do list and since the meds (july 09) I feel, what we call, “normal” and creative and ready to just leap forward. Did I fall into matchmaking and relationship coaching “yes” and I believe it was because I allowed myself to focus on what felt good and that was happiness and creating awareness for someone’s elses happiness. I always had people / friends / co-workers asking me for my personal advice so I thought I need to do more here…and I I certified myself as a life coach and professional matchmaking and startrd my business.
I realized it is all about time and patience because life and love will buy time and patience but it won’t buy busy or avoidance.
This is long but I do understand everyone…I believe we are too hard on ourselves to be absolutely everything right now because we see everyone else successful. Define your own success and write it down some where and look it all the time. Take TIME to get there…practice one change at a time. Create a baseline first then move on to the next…we all know the big picture we will get there..I hope this helps…
With “Love” in mind,
Elizabeth
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